Redemption

“A scar is not always a flaw. Sometimes a scar may be redemption inscribed in the flesh, a memorial to something endured, to something lost.” ~ Dean Koontz

… And in the blink of an eye, everything changed.

The word "redemption" is often overused, especially in religious circles, but it holds a powerful meaning—being saved from something that could destroy you. I’ve met many who have been redeemed from circumstances that could have ruined them, and I am no different.

Option 1: Deface Demolition

At the time of my cancer diagnosis, I was on a promising career track with the federal government and advancing in the Air Force Reserve. But cancer forced me to re-evaluate everything. Through the struggles of treatments such as radiation, I found a path to survival and a chance for a "do-over." With the support of caregivers and therapists, I adopted a hopeful "will attempt" attitude, which led to significant life changes. Seven years later, I focus on keeping negativity at bay and making intentional choices—not letting cancer define me as a victim.

I chose not to dwell on the shadows of the past but to focus on the strength and resilience within me. I learned to move forward with purpose, embracing play and laughter as essential tools for healing. Every step I take today is intentional, knowing each moment shapes a life of strength, joy and fulfillment.

Option 2: Create Meaningful Relationships

The longest-ever study on happiness revealed a key ingredient: close, healthful relationships. I embraced this truth by reaching out to fellow veterans and cultivating connections outside my usual circles. I realized that no one is truly whole on their own, and I have the power to choose whom I allow into my life. I know where to find positive, healthy people—those who bring respect, laughter and joy. If those qualities are absent, I walk away.

Since my diagnosis, I’ve rid myself of negativity, even in places such as religious communities. Setting boundaries is crucial for my emotional well-being. These boundaries aren’t about exclusion. They are about respecting myself and others, fostering relationships that nurture growth, peace and joy.

With each challenge, I’m given another chance at redemption. When asked if I would change anything from my past, my answer is no. Without the hardships of Option 1, I wouldn’t be who I am today, nor in the place I am now. I am living Option 2, and it is a wonderful new skin in which to live as I continue to shed what no longer brings life. I didn’t just move forward—I bounced forward, embracing life with renewed purpose, living redemption as if there’s no tomorrow. Every day is an opportunity to grow, transform and live a life worth celebrating.